As parents we are raising the next generation giving them the skills to go out into the world and stand on their own two feet. As humans we have one of the longest periods of development to this stage in the animal kingdom so we have plenty of time to get it
To trust your child is, in my opinion, one of the hardest aspects of parenting and one that can only come from trusting yourself. If you yourself were not trusted as a child then it makes trusting others very difficult. If I had a pound for every time I have heard it said of a child, but I can't trust them I would be a rich lady now. Hearing these words always makes me sad, sad for the adult speaking them and for the child they are speaking of. Trust is not something you can teach children, they have to learn, they have to be given the space to get on with their life but within the safety net of you as a parent. If you keep the net too tight, too restricting then the child will most likely react. How they react will differ from child to child, they may be aggressive physically or verbally, run away from you constantly, feel like they never listen, be destructive, either way their behaviour is likely to challenge you, probably to tighten the net further still. So a tight net is one, for me, that makes for difficult listening, of frustrated children who are unsettled and maybe destructive and how these two children behave most of the time. They are not trusted and that makes me sad.